Well, hmm, I see how one would read this as "anti-woman" I suppose- of course, because I didn't include the fact that far greater in number would be the diagnosis of "sociopath"- which about 98% are men- in fact, if you wanted to get technical, and I suppose you do, any repeat offender or career criminal meets the DSMR 4 criteria of "sociopath"- another created mental illness.
But, for not going on in my already long post, I apologize,

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the "borderline personality disorder" is primarily diagnosed in females- that DOES NOT mean it is EXCLUSIVE to females- but females have different ways of coping (or, if they are regularly hospitalized, not coping) with life's curve balls.
Okay, how many poeple on this board have had to deal with lot's of stress in thier life? Probably 100% of various degrees, probably 50% or higher with EXTREME stress- violence, sexual physical abuse etc- so how many of us does it totally ruin our lives? Probably about 10%- the rest of us, to some degree, learn to deal with it in a "succesful" manner- i,e,- not frequently suicidal, or homicidal or any number of behaviors that will get you removed from society- this doesn't mean we don't have all kinds of neurosis or problems in our relationships later- it just means we stay below the radar of the police and mental health community, social workers etc.
Now- almost any person that works in any psychiatric hospital in the world will tell you that there are really two groups we, as health workers, put poeple in- our own "defense mechanism" if you will- because, you have to survive in this career, and interact with these folks in a professional manner, day in and day out, no matter your personal feelings- and a small digression here- after the birth of my first child, I found it very difficult to remain professional with the baby killing women and the baby raping men, harder than usual- but I held it together and was therapuetic as I had to be.
So we group folks into two basic categories that help us deal with outrageous behaviors-
1) Chronically and or acutely mentally ill treatable with behavior modification and/or medicine-
2) Personality disorders.
We don't get as many men with personality disorders- because men are typically OVERTLY violent- which means they end up in jail usually- though not always.
Women are not TYPICALLY as overtly violent- instead, they have some incredibly nasty behaviors that will drive anyone around them to distraction as well. - so, instead of going to jail, which is a real debate among health care psychiatric providers today- most believe they should go to jail for assualt just like the men- but our state doesn't do that to the women, only the men- so they end up here, and we have to deal with those behaviors, and, because of the nature of the illness, it is actually not helpful to thier "illness" - because it is attention seeking behaviors- and the only way to extiguish these behavior is to NOT pay attention to them- but, because of liability- we have to stop them when they start cutting on themselves or we have to sit with them when they say they feel "suicidal"- when that is exactly the opposite treatment recomended.
Artemise- I did not mean to offend or demean women one bit- there are some mental illnesses in our society that don't even exist on others- take Anorexia for instance- not found in some cultures- right? Primarily women, right?
So please take my most profound apology if it sounded that way- didn't mean to!
But here is one way of explaining it-
You take a schizzoaffective or schizophrenic or bi-polar and stick them, un-medicated on a desert island with no other poeple around- and you will see no change in the behavior they are presenting at the door of the emergency services clinin. They probably won't survive at all- they will forget to eat, or try to poke out thier eyes or cut off thier genitalia and stuff like that, just like in the hospital.
You take that personality disorder person, man or woman, and stick them alone on a desert island- well, you won't see one bit of difference between them and a "normal/sane" person- they NEED human contact to be "crazy".
The difference between men and women personality disorders, is that men usually end up in jail, women usually end up in mental institutions, for good or bad- that is the way it is.
Artemise- one universal among ALL psych workers is this: we will take 20 male patients if we had to choose before we would take 1 female- female patients are about 10 times harder to deal with, regardless of the sex of the provider, than male patients- don't ask me why- I don't know why- but that is the way it is.
If you don't believe me- see if you can get a job here at my work- you know where it is- I am not fibbing here- and believe me, we welcome all female psych aides with open arms, God knows we need all we can get- most of the time, this place scares off most, and the good ones get better jobs because of the horrible(mis) management of this place!
All that being said- I have quite a few patients I consider myself , well, if not friends with, at least I have pretty good rapport with about 90% of them, and that is part of the job too- knowing who your very presence will "set off".
You can't be proud here, well not of anything but your ability to do your job, because mental patients have an uncanny way of delving into YOUR psyche and KNOWING what YOU hate about yourself, and exposing it loudly and often.
It is a high stress job with a high turnover, well, now it has a high turnover, it didn't used to be that way- but it is high stress, and you have to learn how to deal with extremely difficult behavior, and we can NEVER pre-judge a patient we have never seen before based on sex, diagnosis or behaviors others have claimed they performed. We have to judge our reactions based on what we see presented before us- and when we go inside a secure, quiet area away from patients to vent- we are not very politicaly correct either!
You know Artemise- if you ever feel suicidal, or your partner does- here is one stat for you- we have around a 98% satisfaction rate among the community that has had to "visit" us- they had no idea what the place was like, and most had your feelings towards our "wards"- but in some ways- we are too gentle- some folks feel a little TOO safe here, and keep coming back despite not needing to really be here!
Here is a couple facts about my workplace:
1) Average stay is less than 3 days
2) 95% of everyone admitted is here one time ony and never returns.
And when asked "why"- that 95% says "because I saw REAL reasons to be in a place like that when I was there, and I just felt that my problems weren't so bad".
I stick by my statements about borderline personality disorders- you really don't know how horrible these poeple are, and the same with a true sociopath.
I challenge you to find one experianced psych worker on the planet that will tell you otherwise.
It is just that the male version of that isn't usually diagnosed the same way- or treated in the same manner by society- if anything, society is far gentler and kinder to the female version- both have about the same life expectancy- most are dead before 40 anyway.
You may have known one or two in your life, or even more- but chances are, you liked them at first, but hated them later!
Oh- and BTW Artemise- there IS a component of "real" mental illness- I mean the kind that I mentioned whose behavior does not change when placed on that imaginary desert island- of hormones. I say this, because even though about 95% of freud's stuff has been discounted- and, like you say, there is a very troubling history dealing with womens mental health- but we do know for a fact that there is a hormonal component- in both men and women, and we do see a decrease in some behavior when there is a hysterectomy or castration of the males.
WE don't do these procedures- they do it to themselves. It is not unusual to see someone mutilate thier own genitalia in my hospital- so, we track thier behavior when they are succesful in damaging these organs or removing them, as case studies.
Also- in male schizophrenics, especially those that had violent incidents, criminal or otherwise, that live to be over 50 years of age, when thier testosterone levels plunge, so does some of the acute nature of thier mental well-ness.
This is a hugely long post trying to describe a profession that is really lost on the gneral public, or horribly misunderstood when we make realistic statements about mental illness- but, at some point, every society has to make thier own determination of what 'mental illness" is- and in the US, I would say we have classified TOO MANY things as a form of "mental illness"- and I am not sure if that is healthy for the patients either!