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You make abstinence seem like some oppressive program.
Have you tried it?
Abstinence is not only opressive, its IMPOSSIBLE for most who have not been totally religiously converted or socially educated to it by cutural demand, and even then, rebellion to it seeps out in the most perverse ways. Sociologic and biological drive do not truly allow it.
The sex urge in humans is as strong as our desire for food and water and something akin to rabbits. Humans may always be in heat, 365 days a year. Men appear to have a stronger drive, even in old age, for sexual conquest. Judgement is severely impaired in the sex drive. The force needed to impose abstinance upon humans equates to total brainwash and can usually only be accomplished through guilt ridden religious tactics.
Even safe sex is difficult to impress upon people. For example, in Latin cultures a man will usually deny using condoms and deep within the culture is a belief that the man MUST release in the female as a sign of his virility, and also for her its a completion. The Catholic church does not help this situation much by rejection of birth control. During the initial AIDS epidemic, when workers were educating, it was very hard to convince Latinos to use condoms for the very reason that it was a slight to the males. Also, in Latino culture (basically) a man does not turn down a woman who desires sex from him or he sees himself as less than a man, regardless of how much he loves his wife, lover, partner. These cutural beliefs led to many disease and female health problems in the Latin community. Additionally, Latin women see children as their personal treasure and cannot comprehend how white women can decide NOT to have them.
In tribal Africa, man spreds his seed to every and all available females, having children with as many as will bear, without thought as to their survival, assuring the tribes growth, lineage, and his virility as a man. Women consider children as wealth and proof of their womanhood and fertility, despite hardships, and often they have little choice in the matter.
African, Caribbean and African-American women are all too accustommed to their men having many children with 'other' women. This comes from a culture of survival. Men are often killed in wars, continuance of the race, geneology, etc.
In Anglo-Euopean culture, men visit strippers, prostitutes and lie to their wives, lovers by ommision. This is much more wide spread than anyone would like to imagine. Anglo people have affairs, often times with known friends of their partners or have one night flings. The ritual of fidelity being somewhat ingrained in our culture did not make sex with multiple partners or out of wedlock children non existant, only better hidden. Puritanism has created a monster of sexual perversity in Anglo culture. (ie: Only after Sept 11 did news, for a short time, replace porn as #1 driven sites on the Internet.) Our culture has a diversity of fetish unknown to other cultures such as BDSM and illegal pedophilia.
We have never been able to convince our own 'civilized' culture to adhere to abstinence, nor even maintain fidelity in our long ritual of monogamy and marriage and weve been trying for milenniums. How could we impose it on cultures that have no ritual of it, and in fact have ritual quite the contrary?
In essence, abstinence does not work with most humans. Realizing that fact, the money is better spent on things that DO work. Sex education, prevention through protection, and a well brought up idea, clean and sanitary medical facilities and blood transfusion tests.
In fact we need that here also, without the overblown, inconsistant, and hypocritical moral preachings. ( How many of our priests and preachers have been caught in lurid affairs and sexual child abuse?)