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I"ve been reading The New Birth Order Book by Dr. Kevin Leman. It contains a lot
of info about how birth order influences our personalities.
One thing I know, and I didn’t learn it from any book, is that your place among
siblings never changes, no matter how old you become. If you are, as I am, one of the
youngest in the family, plan on being little sister for the rest of your life. Unless you take steps!
An example: Picture this. I am hosting a family dinner. Everything’s under control. The lasagna is
in the oven, the salad is in the fridge.
Now, I have been cooking for my family of eight , for many years. I KNOW WHEN THE
LASAGNA WILL BE DONE.. But Big sisters are in the kitchen messing with my
lasagna. Second sister declares it done. First sister isn’t so sure. Second sister
insists so THEY start to “dish up.” I’m in the living room drinking wine with middle
sister and the guys. Middle sister and I know there is no stopping Big sisters.
We all sit down at the table and start to dig into the lasagna and it becomes apparent
that the lasagna is not done and will have to go back into the oven. Middle sister rolls her
eyes, but remains quiet. This is because she knows Big Sisters won't pay any attention
to her since she is only "squished in the middle” sister.
All the birth order books say that middle children are just... there, overlooked and
neglected. Now, I think middle sister knows quite a lot. When she and I are together,
without Big sisters, she becomes older sister and I am younger sister. This is good
because we can be more normal with Big sisters out of our hair. We also have a “baby”
sister, but she took off and lives New Orleans and that’s how I got stuck in her slot.
Anyway, Big sisters are bustling around in the kitchen heating up the lasagna. First
sister has a smug “I told you so” expression on her face and second sister is trying to
explain away her mistake. She only tasted the lasagna around the edges , she
should have taken a sample out of the center she says. All I know is they wrecked my
lasagna that I slaved over. I’ll never tell THEM, but if the truth be known, I bought it
frozen at Sams.
If you are like me, a little sister, don’t be discouraged, for there is hope. Sometimes, it may
be to your advantage to just sit back and let big sisters take over because that way
they do all the work. However, if you want to run your own dinner parties you must
become more assertive as I have.
My older sisters are now banned from my kitchen. They cannot go near my kitchen before the
meal is served They can help clear the table, but the dishes will be scraped and stacked and I will
take care of the washing up later.
The reason I gave them for these new, this is how it's gonna be rules, is
first of all, I have a one butt kitchen and second, I want
them to relax and enjoy the evening, and not have to work.
If any of you should want to try this, at first you may need help enforcing the new rules.
That’s where a husband comes in handy and also, a middle sister if you’re lucky enough
have one.
Madtown
of info about how birth order influences our personalities.
One thing I know, and I didn’t learn it from any book, is that your place among
siblings never changes, no matter how old you become. If you are, as I am, one of the
youngest in the family, plan on being little sister for the rest of your life. Unless you take steps!
An example: Picture this. I am hosting a family dinner. Everything’s under control. The lasagna is
in the oven, the salad is in the fridge.
Now, I have been cooking for my family of eight , for many years. I KNOW WHEN THE
LASAGNA WILL BE DONE.. But Big sisters are in the kitchen messing with my
lasagna. Second sister declares it done. First sister isn’t so sure. Second sister
insists so THEY start to “dish up.” I’m in the living room drinking wine with middle
sister and the guys. Middle sister and I know there is no stopping Big sisters.
We all sit down at the table and start to dig into the lasagna and it becomes apparent
that the lasagna is not done and will have to go back into the oven. Middle sister rolls her
eyes, but remains quiet. This is because she knows Big Sisters won't pay any attention
to her since she is only "squished in the middle” sister.
All the birth order books say that middle children are just... there, overlooked and
neglected. Now, I think middle sister knows quite a lot. When she and I are together,
without Big sisters, she becomes older sister and I am younger sister. This is good
because we can be more normal with Big sisters out of our hair. We also have a “baby”
sister, but she took off and lives New Orleans and that’s how I got stuck in her slot.
Anyway, Big sisters are bustling around in the kitchen heating up the lasagna. First
sister has a smug “I told you so” expression on her face and second sister is trying to
explain away her mistake. She only tasted the lasagna around the edges , she
should have taken a sample out of the center she says. All I know is they wrecked my
lasagna that I slaved over. I’ll never tell THEM, but if the truth be known, I bought it
frozen at Sams.
If you are like me, a little sister, don’t be discouraged, for there is hope. Sometimes, it may
be to your advantage to just sit back and let big sisters take over because that way
they do all the work. However, if you want to run your own dinner parties you must
become more assertive as I have.
My older sisters are now banned from my kitchen. They cannot go near my kitchen before the
meal is served They can help clear the table, but the dishes will be scraped and stacked and I will
take care of the washing up later.
The reason I gave them for these new, this is how it's gonna be rules, is
first of all, I have a one butt kitchen and second, I want
them to relax and enjoy the evening, and not have to work.
If any of you should want to try this, at first you may need help enforcing the new rules.
That’s where a husband comes in handy and also, a middle sister if you’re lucky enough
have one.
Madtown
MT - How many sisters do you have?!? 
Jaime,
only four.
only four.
PS
Just so you know, I love all my sisters. Just that some days I love them less than other days.
Just so you know, I love all my sisters. Just that some days I love them less than other days.
Madtown, I got the best laugh I have had in a while with you talking about your sisters. As a youngster I grew up in a family of 5 girls. (No brothers). I have 2 older sisters, I was a twin and we have a half younger sister. My two olders sister complain about my Mom and how she is stubborn etc. But they haven't come to realize they are just like mom. When my twin sister was alive, her, my youngest sister and I would just sit back and watch the 2 "older" sisters argue with my mom about anything and everything. We would sit back and say here they go again. Then we would say should we say something? NAH!!!!! We would make comments about if were ever got like them to just shoot us. It is still like that today. And my younger sister and I just sit back and let them be. We have had quite a few laughs just watching them. And I like you love them all dearly, but I think you are right about having the older sisters. They are older. Who are we to say what is wrong or right? They have lived longer than us and know more! So my younger sister and I let them think! 
Right, Mom of 3. What would we do without them. Who would boss us around? 
Mom of 3.
Did you know that, because you are middle born you do not have as many hang-ups or problems as first borns or only borns? Yup and it says in this here book that middle borns are likely to be mentally tough and independent.
Whatdaya think?
MT
Did you know that, because you are middle born you do not have as many hang-ups or problems as first borns or only borns? Yup and it says in this here book that middle borns are likely to be mentally tough and independent.
Whatdaya think?
MT
mmiknn.
You're a teacher. Do you notice certain traits in your students who are first born, middle or youngest?
Thanks,
MT
You're a teacher. Do you notice certain traits in your students who are first born, middle or youngest?
Thanks,
MT
Madtown, what was this here book you were reading about middle born kids? But I think you are right. I don't have many hang ups at all. I think I am mentally tough or maybe I am just mental. I will have to ask Jaime, Jen and Bobby. I am sure they have their opinion's on this one. 
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