TMI WarningI have stated
elsewhere that I do not believe that the choice involved in terminating a pregnancy is any business of any man. Women bear children for nine months (itself a huge and demanding responsibility), they go through the agony of labor, they often suffer severe depression as a result, and most spend weeks to months nursing the child afterwards - to say nothing of the usual practice of leaving women to feed, bathe, train, supervise, and educate the child largely on her own. Compared to that experience, a man's Olympian ability to squirt after two minutes of self-involved pleasure is
nothing.Even in a marriage or committed relationship, where I would imagine the male partner would have a major input into the decision, I believe that the final decision must rest with the woman - but most certainly not with the state. If our government had a majority of radical lesbian feminists rather than a majority of conservative Christian men, how many males here would feel comfortable with them considering legislation that rendered vasectomies mandatory at the age of twenty-five? Would you feel they had the right to decide the fate of your sexual organs?
Sadly, many abortions are not a matter of convenience. And, while I may personally feel that abortions should only be readily available when it is a question of saving the mother's life or, possibly, in cases of rape and/or incest, I still don't believe that it is my right to enforce that opinion on any woman. The vasectomy metaphor may not fly with some of you, but it
does bear on someone else telling you what you may or may not do with your own body. I grant that there is no appropriate analogy - that is my point. The miraculous blessing or unfathomable burden of bearing a child is an event which affects one gender and one gender only. And I still believe that the other gender has no right to impose any kind of decision on the child-bearers.
For what it's worth, I'd personally frown on the termination of a pregnancy much beyond the second trimester. By that time, ontologically, the foetus has developed to the stage of upper primates and is certainly on the verge of being considered "human". While I realize that many men consider offspring their "property", until they're able to take on the risks and responsibilities of bearing children themselves, they should just shut up.
The main reason I do not personally tend to support abortion on demand is that both my partner and one of my sons were raised in orphanages - and both of them presume that, rather than being orphans, they were in fact illegitimate. If that is the case, and had their mothers decided to abort rather than bear their children, the world would have been deprived of two wonderful human beings. But I still don't believe that my feelings should take precedence over those of someone who must actually bear the child. Terminating a pregnancy can't possibly be an easy decision - even when it is unwanted. I feel it is extremely unfair to make that decision even more difficult - or, worse, for the state to make that decision
for an individual.
Maybe this will make it clearer: every woman who bears a child does so at the risk of her own life. The first man in the universe who risks more than the potential embarrassment of not being able to get it up might have some say over what any woman can do with her own body. If any male thinks he has any right whatsoever to determine any woman's freedom of choice, his selfishness and arrogance are infinite. If a man is that desperate for parenthood,
he can adopt one of the hundreds of thousands of unwanted children that
are born in this country annually.