Do you think todays parents struggle with instilling values in their kids. Do you think parents rate their generation as Fair or Poor at raising childern?

please tell me your opinion?

I think a lot of parents worry that they are doing only a fair job of raising their kids. This is partly due to the two parent working families. They are concerned about quality time with their kids.

MT

I think not only there are 2 parents working but how about divorced parents. I am a single mom of 3. When I was separted my kids were 17, 14 and 10. Hell I was scared to death. I think one thing is to tell your kids you love them and show it. Also you have to have communication with your kids. and you have to be very supportive of your kids. Maybe I was just lucky but I think I have their love because of supporting them and they me. Would like other's thoughts on this.

i come from a family in which my parents are divorced. my mom has done a wonderful job in raising me in telling me what is right from wrong, although i think she was overprotective of me since i am the oldest child. my father really isnt around anyone more, i just see him once and awhile and all we seem to do is something that involves sports or playing cards. i think growing up kept me away from what other kids where experiencing. i didnt get to experience growing up with a father and i can see how it has affected me. it turned me from a child that looked so innocent into a person that has issues that cant be controlled. its like i turned into a rebel and never paid attention to my mom, but yet i realized what i was doing was wrong. but i just wanted to be me, and i didnt want anyone to get in my way. i went from the perfect child into one who stole, did drugs, smoked, and just about drank my life away. things have been hard, but i have realized how much my mom means to me and i always want to be there for her no matter how much i disobeyed her in the past. the only problem i have is that my younger brother is one who is going to drive my mother crazy. i think what i did when i was younger set an example for him and he is already learning the hard way, worse than i did at his age. i always wonder how things would have been if my parents werent divorced, would it have changed the way i grew up in my teenage yrs? i wont ever know, but i sure wish i could know. but i am thankful for what my mom has done for me and i can never be so greatful for having her as my mom.

You're ok now lcoffman, and that's what counts. Even when you were acting out, your mom knew that you loved her. Mothers know that. They forgive everything. Why don't you tell your Mom what you just told us. I bet it would make her happy.

Madtown

Honey I don't know how old you are but you seem like you have grown up to become a very responsible person.I think you have learned how much your mom loves you both and you both love her. as for maybe setting a wrong example for your brother maybe you did, but I think by talking to him and telling him you were wrong with what you did and now setting the right example he will do just fine too. Please if there is anything I can do for you maybe just talk I will listen. I am a good listener. Good luck. and God Bless

The pendulum seems to be swinging back to center again from the permissive age introduced with Dr. Spock. Today’s parents are products of their parents so there are a lot of left-over 60's attitudes, but in general I think they are fair. The world is moving at such a fast pace now. Families no longer sit down at the table for meals every evening without the competition of television.
My heart goes out to single parents. Parenting is a tough job without the added burden of going it alone. But single or double all you can do is the best you can do, but that is the key...are we doing our best?
So, anyway, my opinion is fair. I think kids behavior in schools shows the lack of respect for authority. In this state we have lost a huge amount of good teachers to private schools because of the lack of discipline in the public schools.

iwclcoffman - You sound like you have your head on straight and are doing a good job. Hang in there and hold the faith. Don't know what your faith is, but there is an old saying..let go and let God. He will help you through.

yes i do think parents have a difficult time instilling values in their children because kids today have more issues to deal with than their parents did at this age. Aids, STDs, drug and alchohol abuse starting at a young age, and even teen pregnancies are all examples of what is more serious today than it was back in their parents ages. Overall i think parents rate their generation poor at raising their children. Divorce rates are higher today, families do not stay together as much, and kids are less to fend for themselves at much younger ages, and kids are encourged nowadays to become more independent.