It's been one of those days...

What do you do when you get the urge to go postal?


Edited to add: For relief, I mean. I don't want to know about any violent nights in back alleys or other sordid tales like that...

I had one of those days today actually. I try to channel it into something positive like working out.

fill your bath with bubbles, pour yourself a cup of green tea, light a few candles and dismiss whatever or whomever it is bugged you beyond repair, away.

9 out of 10 times this DOES work. for that one time it doesn't? lock yourself in your car and scream. great energy release!

Cyan,

Sorry you had a bad day. I wish I had some good advice for you but I am one of those "anger turns to tears" kinda people. Of course, crying is a great release.

I also go for brisk walks and tell people off in my mind.

Lastly, and I am revealing WAY too much here, but if I have to confront someone, which thank goodness is rare, I practice my rebuttal. I say it out loud. I say it different ways to see which sounds better.

Stand in front of a mirror and tell them off Cyan!!

Here at AD, when I get angry by a post, which is also very rare you guys I will write out a response but won't post it.

Big hugs girlfriend. ((()))

I usually talk my husband's ear off, which is probably not the best approach. He is a good listener, and just lets me rage on about whatever. There's nothing like a good friend who is actually willing to let you do that.

We have a martial arts bag for kicks and punches that gets the treatment every now and then.

I also like to play music that gives expression to the mood. And I cry.

After giving time to that expression, then I am ready for soothing things, like a bath in candlelight, lavender aromatherapy, soothing music.

All of the above are good. But after you get your emotions under control, don't forget to do the following:

1. Think about what upset you so much and why it upset you.
2. Make up your mind to either accept this thing as it is, and not let it get to you in the future, OR change whatever you need to about your life to prevent it from happening again.

We don't have total control over the things that get under our skin day to day. But I think that we sometimes forget just how much control we do have.

Hope you feel better soon!

I actually don't get angry very often, and like Beladonna, I get that anger to tears thing too, but my boss who also happens to be my boyfriend's father knows how to push all the right buttons. Seriously, sometimes the guy can say "hello," and feel like throwing things at him.

I liked SoCaliente's idea of screaming in the car. I'm sure my neighbours would love that!

I'm going for the "battling the forces of evil" approach. I picked up Icewind Dale II and Age of Wonders: Shadow Magic, and then a bubble bath sounds delightful.

It's kind of funny, Bela. I don't usually practice my rebuttal out loud, but I do have a tendency to perseverate on the situation. I'll replay an argument in my mind over and over until I've used up every response and outcome that I can think of. Sometimes it helps and other times I think of more reasons to be angry. It's therapeutic either way.

Well I have been having one of those bad months. I totalled my Lexus, got hurt, hurt the other two people in the other car, and might have lost the chance to buy my first house. (hence the reason I haven't been posting for a while.) But I sit down and think about the how far I have come, and the path that got me where I am, and noticed something. I'm not sure if this will help, but here goes. Life sort goes in cycles. Just when you think your unstoppable and on roll, fate, or god, throws you a curve. Unless you give up, you always come back. Most of the time better then what you were before. Now heres the good part of my story. In the past 3 weeks I sold my stocks right before another dip, With the money I Bought a newer Lexus and paid off my consumer debt, and the seller of the house I was going to buy just listed it for best offer. Sure I'm still hurt and so are the other people and might have a lawsuit pending, but I learned a lesson and got the chance to remember that I can get through anything. I hope this helps.

This Is a quick solution, but its treating the symptom and not the disease. Is there any way you can remove him from your life or confront him? If you don't you'll be hoarse in no time at all.

Sorry, but I just had to add that I love this song too and didn't want to add another post.

I usually just beat the snot out of a punching bag. Makes me feel better (though it occasionally hurts my knuckles).

Also, i have Windows Media Player full of songs, some with beats that would settle me down or get whatever is bothering me off my mind. For Example, i was totally out of it the day of the Chinook Helicopter incident in Iraq because i had a little loss of faith & concern, but then i listened to Toby Keith's "Courtesy of the Red, White and Blue (The Angry American)" & i got pumped again.

If you asking "Juber your a nice kind guy how do you manage that anger you sexy hunk you" Then i write poetry. Ive written a poem called "a velvet bottle" when i was angry at my co-workers (almost wanting to slash his tires). Anyways it won 3rd place in the school poetry contest...lol...

And this might actually be crazy,might even call a psychologist but i have a game called "unreal tournment" and i pick all the weapons and shoot the charcters that releases load of energy

My anger almost always reverts itself into sadness, and then I cry. I'm a heavy-duty crier, I could go Pro. I can cry about absolutely nothing, just because I'm sitting there and feeling sad I'll just burst into tears. And not just little "boo-hoos" either. I mean, earthquake magnitude, I-can't-breathe sobbing.
I don't do well with anger. At all. I end up holding grudges, because I believe if someone has wronged me, then they deserve to pay. I don't usually say/do anything when someone makes me angry, though. Not outright. I will give them nasty looks for the rest of the year though. And the next year. And the next... and plot revenge that I never end up executing.
I vent in my diary. Venting <3
and finally, I cut.
But mostly I cry. I do believe that I'll try that "screaming in the car" idea, though. Man have I felt like screaming lately...

I'm not a psychologist, but I play one in AD

I play Unreal Tournament, too. Online in the sniper arena, Capture the Flag games. You're right, there's nothing like killing off some make believe bad guys to get rid of the pent-up tension.

If that doesn't work, I close the door, dial up the head phones, and spend an hour or two singing to some of by favorite tunes. I don't care how much it embarasses my daughter!

I do that with "Multiple player mode" in my N64's "The World is not Enough"

You gamers are so Yesterday! Halo online is the most awesome FPS experience yet. I've done 'em all - Quake, UT, Half Life - Halo is incredible!

But I don't do it to release anger. Truthfully, I hardly ever get angry. It sometimes drives my wife crazy, but I am a very content, even-keeled guy. When I get "angry" about a post on AD, it's always very abstract, it's never a visceral emotion.

I would love to credit Buddhism, but really I've just always been like this. With one notable exception. When I was in ninth grade, I was really into hardcore music, and I dressed like a punk. I had a mohawk and all. Well, this was in Virginia, and I got jumped by eight good-old-boys after a school football game. I was pretty angry for a few months.

Of course I am exaggerating - I do get mad sometimes. Just never for long, and not very often.

Apolitically correct:
Go out and have a cold walk in a big field, place or rooftop, scream out obescenities, go home and have a warm bubble bath and your favorite drink, smoke or otherwise, afterwards grab your man and ...use imagination. After all its his old man *** NOTICE: THIS WORD IS AGAINST THE RULES. FAILURE TO REMOVE IT WILL RESULT IN A STRIKE. *** you off, might as well reinforce your will!


Let's keep the youngest members in mind when posting please. -Jaime

If it's an individual causing "one of those days" I try a meditation technique I learned years ago.

You imagine your self in a protective white bubble, and you imagine the "culprit" directing negative energy to you, but it bounces off the bubble and goes back toward the person sending it. Try to keep up the visualization for about 5 minutes.

I like to think of it as making the other person take responsibilty for their own negativity, but I find that I usually feel tons better after this meditation.