QUOTE(Artemise @ Jan 18 2004, 04:02 AM)
That is because the really hard work was done already by those who came before you.
This was not a post on discrimination in general and noone was whining or talking about injustices, until DP accused women of whining, which was not the point of my post at all and I took offence to in general. The point was that these are good jobs and plenty of women want them, not because they are trying to 'prove themselves' in predominantly male fields as DP insinuated, but possibly because they are rewarding, challenging jobs with high pay and good benefits.
Although we all agree on a good part of what is expressed in the thread topic, some finer points needed clarification. DP some your commentary also came across to me as somewhat hard on women, claiming that they are looking for jobs to prove themselves worthy to society in male fields. I believe this totally incorrect and out of step with the idea you later stated about looking for good jobs with good pay. The two positions dont jive.
I dont know how old you are but Im 42 and when I went to high school there were no sports scholarships for girls yet and no women in construction jobs and the like. I have heard a million arguements about why women cant do this or that in my lifetime, and year after year we prove them wrong. Is this complaining, or was fighting this wrong? Was fighting for equal pay for equal work wrong or complaining? I dont think so. Its so easy NOW to say, I dont have to fight, only because great women made the sacrifices and fought hard for us already, and it hasnt been so long ago.
Boy, I must really be coming across as a woman-basher.Labacia thinks I'm a man, lol.
I've read your post, and I agree with much of it. I am very
appreciative of the brave women (and men) who have paved
the way for all of us. I just do not go in for the "
battle of
the sexes" ideology (And, I'm not trying to say that you do).
My personal feelings are that it is okay to be a woman and not
be able to do all of the things that men can do. And vice-versa.
Life is filled with barriers and obstacles. And each gender, race,
etc. has their own crosses to bare. I agree that women should
follow the path that will bring them happiness and fulfillment.
But, IMO,
some women feel that they must compete with
men to be valuable.
Why do we have to burn our bras (so to speak)? Why can't
we wear our high heeled shoes, have our nails manicured, and do
whatever else makes us happy. And yes, jeans and a t-shirt, too
(
that's me).
A woman should pursue whatever she so desires, provided it is
truly within her realm of abilities and capabilities. (The same goes
for a man) There are jobs all over that are high-paying. You don't
have to become a fire-fighter or construction worker to earn a good
living.
Furthermore, in the past, when the majority of men were the bread-
winners,
who were they bringing the money home to? Their
families. Women's roles have changed a lot over the decades. In
many ways, for the better, but in some ways, not for the better.
Nowadays, in many families both the mom and dad are working full-
time. So who is raising the children? Nannies and daycare facilities.
For what? So, women can feel like are not being tied to the home
and "held down".
The grass always seems greener on the other side, until
you get to the other side, then you realize it's no better.
BTW: I'm 32 years old, so I'm not too far behind you.