I just had to reply to this topic after browsing on the web. I personally am not a vain person but I think in attracting members of the opposite sex, PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS AND CONFIDENCE IS THE KEY!. I do not think most men care if the woman were blue if they were gorgeous. I am a dark-skinned, chocolate complexioned black female with naturally long curly/kinky hair, tall, slim, intelligent from an upper middle class background. I get compliments and lots of attention and I am asked on dates from all races of men constantly, particularly Middle Eastern, Arab, Caucasian (Spanish , Italian all types), Indian, Mixed, Black except Chinese/Japanese. My friends do not like going out with me, because I get all of the attention. I gotten marriage proposals from white, Indian, Greek, Tunisian-Arab and Black men. I was reading one post about a black woman who likes white men but they do not ask her out, I hate to be blunt but she may not have confidence in herself and/or may not be very attractive. I do not think it has to do with race at all. Strangers have approached me, men and women of all races in the mall to tell me how good looking I am. I am not vain I am telling the truth. I HAVE CONFIDENCE in myself and I do not care that society says you have to be blonde and blue eyed, I know that I am pretty. Society would rule my type the least desired but I get more dates than all of my white, Indian, Asian friends. My current boyfriend is Italian and an ex-jean model, he is gorgeous.

Also when people think of real black or dark-skinned actresses why do they mention Whoopi Goldberg?, she is not even remotely pretty. People should mention the beautiful brown/dark-skinned actresses, like Gabrielle Union, Ananda Lewis, Lark Voorhies, Tamala Jones, Kiesha Knight Pulliam (Rudy from the Cosby Show), Garcelle Beauvais Nilon, Iman, Robin Givens, Kelita Smith, Elise Neal, Lela Rochon, Vivica Fox. And as to comments on Tyra Banks and Beyonce I think they are attractive black looking women with plenty of color and have black features, they are golden brown and really not that light, as in high yellow, they are still several shades darker than former Miss America Vanessa Williams is (even though I love her too and she is a real sister too). I think racism is so bad that many women in the black community have low self -esteem which is not attractive many do not see themselves as attractive. When you have an attractive black female star they think "how could this be, lets make her less black".

I personally, will not date anyone that isnt the same race as me. But its not about me or anyone else, besides the people that are in the relationship. I dont think that different races that go out should be hounded at all. Is it really any of our business what other people do? Does it affect you in any way besides making you angry? The answer is no. People of different races in a relationship shouldnt even be somthing that concers people. People that complain about this issue should stop and think, what your saying and doing to these people, is the same thing that you complain about in america. Isnt America supposed to be the land of the free? If so, i wouldnt feel free at all if people always looked down upon my relationship with a different race.

Bottom line is, its no ones business but there own, deal with it.

I've noticed a pattern with white girls that date black guys. There are basically two types:

Wiggers: These are usually teenagers. They're quick to say how much better black guys are than white guys (better facial features, more muscular, smoother, etc). They say blacks are "fionne" and whites are "corny" and basically hate all whites. They want to bee seen on the street holding hands with their black boyfriends and think of all the drama it will cause. They talk in ebonicsand dress in hip hop clothes.

Girls Gone Wild: These are usually college girls, but more and more teenagers these days. Most of these white girls date blacks just so they can say they did. They have it planned that they're going to marry a white guy someday, but for now they want to be loose, wild sluts that would do anything to have sex with a black guy, and they get off on being degraded by their black boyfriends. All black men are attractive to them, it's cool to screw a black guy, it makes them hip and trendy, and blacks have a "mystique". Most of them won't have anything to do with white men until they're "over their phase" or they want a husband. If they do date white men it has to be a serious relationship where she doesn't put out on the first date, whereas with blacks it's always no-strings-attached and her black *** NOTICE: THIS WORD IS AGAINST THE RULES. FAILURE TO REMOVE IT WILL RESULT IN A STRIKE. ***buddies can get away with alot more.

There's something both types have in common. Years later, they want to come crawling back to white men. When their past is brought up, including their negative attitudes towards the white men they now want to marry, they're quick to say "that was when I was young and naive", "those were my wild years, that's in the past. Don't judge me by that!" and they want white men to forgive and (more importantly) forget...

And when they want to marry a white man, they want a "nice guy" white man that will help do the housework and be the typical emasculated hubby that's nurturing and sensitive, and allows her to spend his money. And she always has a headache when he wants sex.

Nowadays, to white women black guys are the "bad boys" they have fun with, and white guys are the suckers they con into marrying them when they want a man to support them.

short and sweet.

if two people are happy together, they are happy together. let other people deal with their own *** NOTICE: THIS WORD IS AGAINST THE RULES. FAILURE TO REMOVE IT WILL RESULT IN A STRIKE. *** prejudices to themselves.

This is a rather insulting generalization of a lot of people. I think you're looking at this a little wrong, though some of the BASIC facts might be true. White women are more likely to marry white men that they date than black men that they date, for the obvious reason that people often don't just marry the individuals, but they marry into families as well. Moralistic outrage aside, there are often cultural differences and family prejudices that aren't easy to ignore. If a woman has to divorce her family to marry a black man, she might opt to choose not to get that emotionally involved...even if she is more attracted to dark-skinned men. Maybe black men are often wary to marry white women for the same reasons.

The children of interracial marriage are beautiful. Seems that the unborn child manages to take the best of both. I used to babysit a beautiful little boy. He had(probably still has)the most expressive face and eyes. His smile could brighten a whole room. At birth he was light, with straight hair. By 18 months he looked like he had a great tan all the time, and the curlest hair, couldn't get a comb through it. But he is always beautiful and carries with him, where ever he may go, a big chunk of my heart. Love knows no color barriers.

That is the bottom line.