Amlord said, "If you look at the biology of the situation, the lesbian partner is not a biological parent. In this instance, the partner helped raise the child, but is that enough to qualify as a parent?
Many parents in heterosexual relationships aren't the biological parent. But the law holds them to everything a biological parent is held to.
To qualify to be a parent do you have to be the biological one? So all parents of adopted kids, and stepkids, aren't parents?
Let's take an analogous situation: A girl who is pregnant wants nothing to do with the father of the baby. Or, let's say she is artificially inseminated. Should her new boyfriend be required to pay child support if he helped raise the child? Should he have visitation rights?
If they were not married then I would think the courts would say no he is not liable, nor would he be able to have visitations even if he helped raise the child.
Take this analogous situation:
Girl gets pregnant. Her boyfriend is happy about the baby, she however is not. She decides to abort. (she aborts a child with her DNA and his)
She says, "I don't care, its my body to do with as I please."
Court says she can do it. His DNA is not important.
Girl gets pregnant. Boyfriend is NOT happy one bit, and wants her to abort. She does not and has the child. It's after all her body, she calls the shots. Guy fights for his child, courts says hey its her body you have no rights.
The government by allowing woman to abort says that the fathers DNA is nothing. Should they be able to turn around and make this guy pay child support when he did not want the baby to begin with?
Should she be able to force him to pay child support?
The male is taken out of the equation in both circumstances. He has no choice. He doesn't have a chance or choice in either case.
Our laws in this country are horrible and quite frankly I think are unfair to men in this child custody issue and abortion.
My brother in law was once married to a woman and had three kids. His name appear on all three birth certificates.
He found out a few years ago that his two younger children were not his. He heard rumors and had DNA testing done. It was horrific, devastating to the children and to him. At the time the children were 15, 13, and 8.
The biological father had been a part of the kids life from the get-go and they called him "uncle".
It was hell for everyone. The mother was so furious that he did the testing she turned the two against him. His daughter came around and is in his life.
The youngest hates him and refused to see him.
He went to court to fight to be able to see his son. The court ruled, he had to continue paying child support until the boy reached 18 and that the boy did not have to go because his father was involved in his life. They felt it would be to confusing for him.
My brother in law still has to pay. Pay for a son he cant see. His heart is broken. Even though this boy is not biologically his, his love is like that of a real fathers.
Did the courts do what was in the best interest of this child?